Is anxiety ruining your life?
Are you filled with anxiety and can’t calm down?
Feeling overwhelmed?
Losing sleep?
Stressed?
Preoccupied?
You just want to calm down!
What would it be like to calm down?
You’d be…
Relaxed.
Thinking clearly
Calmer
Sleeping better.
Managing stress
You are not alone.
I was tormented by anxiety too!
It was about 10 years ago that I was a wreck for weeks! I couldn’t eat. I couldn’t sleep. Relational and legal issues in my family had me bond up in knots. Scared? Yes! Disruptive thoughts? You bet! Xanax came to the rescue temporarily. I was a steaming, hot mess!
Finally, things settled down and I made a personal decision. “I am not going to live like this anymore!” This decision changed my life. I found help and support. Life is much different now after learning about anxiety and practicing strategies to manage it. I learned to become anxiety free.
End anxiety in 3 steps
- Name the fears causing anxiety
Reflect and identify what’s scaring you. Be honest. Fear is always hiding beneath anxiety. Identifying fears may be hard but do it anyway. Discover fears by responding to these questions.
- What worst case situations am I imaging?
- What is my inner critic telling me?
- What is really triggering my anxiety?
- What hard truth might I be ignoring?
Several months ago, a woman overcome with anxiety and anger about a situation in her family contacted me. She was having a very hard time calming down. She was distraught and scared.
We talked about her underlying fears. As the root of her anxiety became clear, she began to feel lighter and calmer. What a relief! With help she became free of crushing anxiety.
- Change old thoughts to new thoughts.
Be alert to negative thoughts. Notice how negative thoughts bring you down. Replace them with thoughts that are positive and uplifting. Shift thoughts from negative to positive over and over again. It takes practice. Your mind will begin to calm down.
Recently a woman contacted me who was experiencing anxiety about her husband’s frightening health diagnosis. Things seemed very grim. She was alarmed and panicky. Her mind was spinning out of control.
With support she was able to focus on her negative, scary thoughts and feelings. Using tools and strategies to shift those thoughts to an optimistic place made a difference. She faced the immediate challenges and calmed down.
- Make a plan to stop anxiety.
Keep managing your thought life and create a plan to reduce anxiety daily. New habits of thinking form as you pay attention to your thoughts. Make a plan! Stick to it! Rule out guilt producing and fear generating patterns of thinking. You will be quieting your mind. Anxiety will stop tormenting you.
I worked with another client who was distressed about an upcoming transition in her life. What was going to happen? Could she manage dealing with the relationships involved? Where were the resources she needed? She became agitated and unsettled about many things.
As we discussed her fears and worries, ideas emerged about how to cope with current and potential anxieties. Writing down the plan helped. It brought relief and calmness.
What’s anxiety doing to you? Want to calm down?
If this is you…if this sounds like you, I sincerely hope you find someone to help you stop anxiety. It is possible!
The truth is you can become anxiety free!
Click here for a free video training about how to become anxiety free.
Jane Kennard PhD, CPC is a Canadian born anxiety coach whose desire is to help women become anxiety free. Her purpose is to support women struggling with anxiety, overwhelm and worry and help them experience anxiety free living. She lives in Texas with her husband and Bishon pup, Toby. Find out more and sign up for a free consultation here.
